Sometimes visitors who have come after a long gap will be confronted by the killer question, 'Can you see any changes in him?' At first I used to feel uncomfortable with this question but then I began to derive a perverse pleasure in watching visitors ponder over how to answer the question tactfully.The straight-forward answer to this question would have been to say that they could not see any change. But it is not socially acceptable to give such a blunt answer.
So there will be some standard anodyne responses that will be like the following:
- His skin is glowing.
- His eyes are shining.
- He is looking more alert.
- The little finger of his left hand moves (it always did).
- His legs move when he coughs (they always did).
I will sit impassively listening to the exchanges.